What Should I Do?

First of all, I want to commend you on your determination to live as a godly young woman. Stand firm! I will never understand why people treat each other the way they do. One thing you have to remember is that as hard as you fight for a Christ-like life, Satan will fight against it. I have to believe what you are going through is more of a spiritual battle. That not at all condones her behavior. There is no doubt about it that she is wrong. Proverbs 16:28 tells us that gossip separates close friends. She not only is dishonoring your character and that of your boyfriend’s – she is also damaging her own. Even more detrimental is the thought of her hindering someone else’s growth in Christ. God hates gossip. There are 7 things that are detestable to God and a lying tongue is one of them, as are a heart that devises wicked schemes and a person that stirs up dissension. Although I think it is important you treat her in a Christ-like manner, I don’t believe it is of benefit to either of you to pretend as if there isn’t a problem. You may want to speak with your youth pastor or another trusted adult that knows both your personalities. What I don’t suggest is putting yourself in a situation that allows a confrontation between just the two of you. If that happens, chances are you will walk away with two different versions which will once more open the door for gossip. Before you approach the situation, be prayed-up and armed with scripture. Use this as an opportunity to let your true character shine. Approaching this in a mature fashion, grounded in the truth allows God to work in both of your lives. If you choose to distance yourself from her, be honest with her as to why. One of my favorite passages is Exodus 14:14, “You only need remain calm; the Lord will fight for you.” That doesn’t translate into, “I’m a doormat and you can walk all over me.” What it does mean is that God promises to deliver those who love Him. You have no control over someone else’s behavior but you do have control over how you handle situations that result from that behavior. It’s unfortunate you have to face this but I am so proud that in the midst of something so very painful you are leaning on the Lord. Once you get to the other side of this – and you will – you will be better armed to handle the next ploy Satan throws your way – and he will. Remain true to your relationship with Christ, stay in the Word, and allow the Holy Spirit to lead you. He will not leave you to handle this one on your own.